Do What You Say You’re Going To Do.

It is amazing the lack of follow through on things that are said.

As part of my relocation from Grand Rapids, MI to Terre Haute, IN, I have had to use many different service providers and stores. This includes things like cable, internet, furniture, movers, fence installation companies, you name it. We still get to look forward to doctors, dentists, eye care, veterinarian and more. The joys.

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We all know the experience with “The Cable Company” – they show up whenever, not necessarily when they promised and communication is nonexistent. That happened, missed appointments that were confirmed via email and no one shows.

Purchased furniture from one national company, Made in the USA though. And, waited all day for a delivery that never came. Called to find out where it was, it was backordered and should be here next week. Awesome. Why didn’t they call me ahead of time to let me know?

There are many positives too. A chair from a local company, delivered right on time – no issues. Movers, great communication and called when on their way.

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Parenting, Perseverance, and Being a Part of a Team

We’re in week 3 of our family being together here in Indiana. Sometimes it feels like it’s been months, sometimes like it was just yesterday. We’re still in our temporary apartment, moving in to the new (to us) home next week.

Moving is one thing. Moving as a family with a young child is another. Our guy is 11, totally independent, smart, sarcastic, and emotional too. We moved earlier so we could get him enrolled in school, so he can make some friends before summer – and the start of middle school next year. (Seriously, where does the time go?!). We also signed him up for baseball, which this particular league takes very seriously.

Walking out on field for first baseball game

Watching him walk out on the field, all on his own. Hits this Mom right in the feels.

With the move, we missed a few weeks of practices. Missing out on bonding with his team, getting to know the other players. Did I mention that at his first practice we had to drag him out of the car about 1/2 hour after it started to make him to over to the team. Yep… great parenting moment there. I was reduced to obnoxious threats and anger. When he started school, a few of the guys from his team were in his class. Great (we thought).

Fast forward a few weeks, a couple of games (some cancellations due to rain), and he isn’t feeling like part of the team. Coach and the other players have only seen him at one or two practices, resulting in very little playing time in the games. We came from a great, fun little league, and were in a different age group last year – slower pace, and a lot more fun.

As a Mom, I sit here with a child who doesn’t want to play. Clearly is not having any fun. Doesn’t feel like part of the team. Missed out on some pretty important parts of being on the team early on. I told him he had to give it 2 more games, and then could quit if he wasn’t feeling like more of the team. Sometimes it just takes time to gel with people, especially 11 & 12 year old boys, right?

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Relocation… Road to Indiana

Yes, you read that right. This might be a surprise to some, to others they know much of the story. So here’s the scoop for my friends and colleagues.

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After 28+ years with one company, my amazing husband had a great opportunity to start with a new company in Terre Haute, Indiana. That’s about 4.5 hours (or 300+ miles from Grand Rapids). GR has been our hometown, home base and center of our world for our entire lives. He’s a country boy from Caledonia. I was a “city girl” from Jenison, turned country-ish girl when we married and moved out near Gun Lake.

This is a HUGE career opportunity for him.

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Don’t Be Afraid to Ask.

I’ve been attending some pretty enlightening workshops recently. They’re led by Ken Fortier, the author of NetPLUS Connections. Being in business development and working with so many different people, I will admit I do kind of “get” networking and connecting people I know with each other. And, I like to think I have my “elevator speech” kind of down too.

quote-Stevie-Wonder-if-you-dont-ask-you-dont-get-146656_1Yet, here in the first few minutes of talking with the group, Ken tells us about “making an ask.” Simply asking others we know in the group if they might be able to help us with a specific need. It can be personal, professional, or for a friend. At first, many people were shy. It’s funny because the conversation and light bulb moment was that we look at kids who don’t have the answers, and they ask everything. They ask tons of questions, and usually get their answers they need.

Kids say the darndest things, right? They do!

They’re not afraid to ask. When did we lose that as adults?

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Finding Balance in The New Year

IMG_8675819038937Seems we’re all searching for balance in our work and real lives these days. I know that I have always tried to find it. It’s never a perfect balance, certainly one that ebbs and flows with where you’re needed most and what’s due when. Nothing like a deadline at work, child’s project or school event to get you focused, right?!

Did you get to enjoy time off over the holidays? Did you find that even with holiday get togethers and parties, you still had a little more down time?

I did, and it was fantastic. More importantly, I was very aware of having more time for what I wanted to do, and how I wanted to do things. I still had work to do and things to complete, luckily I could do a lot of that from home or from the local coffee shop. Flexibility!

And, with days off, I was able to spend more time at the gym and at home. I went through closets, cleaned them out and have boxes of goodies for Goodwill.

In having more time to decide what I wanted to do, and where I wanted to be, I felt more empowered and … Happy. I think that is part of what “balance” is – that you’re happy. Now, if you know me, you know that I love what I do and that is fun for me too. I did get a lot of work done – it was really just this new perspective or awareness of doing more of what I wanted to do, and being present in it.

Balance isn’t about 50/50 or a teeter totter going up and down, back and forth. It’s about finding what works for you, where you find happiness, fun, hard work, satisfaction and then some. As I prepare to head back to the “real world” tomorrow with 5 days of work in a row, I am also excited about this new consciousness about being where I want to be. That means focused on work, hitting the gym consistently (because that keeps me healthy and I have a blast working out), and making sure I head home at a decent time to hang with my guys.
That’s balance for me. What does balance look like for you?

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Too Much Of A Good Thing

When Strengths Become Weaknesses

Seems like this is a topic that comes up often in the work place. From interview … to reviews … to exit. What makes a potential employee attractive can also be their downfall. I read a recent article on that asked if you would rather work with competent people who are unlikeable or incompetent people who are likable.  The title of the article is “Your Personality Is the Most Powerful Tool You Have.”

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The title caught my eye…Why?

I’ve been told (and I know) that I’m outgoing, passionate, intense, and driven. All good things when I’m working hard, going after new challenges and doing whatever it takes to get the job done. Taking ownership and providing customers with great service are strengths I hold dearly.

However, when driving forward to achieve my goal of perfection, and keep everyone happy, my performance reviews  include feedback like – performance is never a concern, but emotions are,

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My Grandpa

It’s been a long time since I’ve blogged. I think of things to post almost daily, especially since this is my personal blog, now that my business blogging stuff is over on the BluFish Consulting blog.

Grandpa HidySo here it goes. My Grandpa passed away today. He did live a long and wonderful life. Like many people his age, he too suffered from dementia and alzheimer’s – which are heartbreaking, sad circumstances no matter what your age. I have a ton of great memories of him and my Grandma, who preceded Grandpa in going to heaven by a few years.

All day I’ve thought about all of the vacations, road trips and experiences from hanging out with Grandma and Grandpa Hidy.

  • They went with our parents to Cedar Point and Sea World for several years growing up.
  • They took us to Iowa to meet and visit Grandpa’s Aunt Dot who lived to be 97. Those trips brought on adventures of letting us sit in Grandpa’s lap and steer the car. (Seat belts weren’t required then, so it was pretty legal).
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